I’m No Different than Other Women

By: Kadie Kobielusz

It takes just one guy…to ruin everything.

I know this is a bold statement, but this is how I’ve been feeling. You wonder why you don’t see much PDA with bi or lesbian women. Well, this is why.

It was Valentine’s Day, and I took this girl I really care about out to the movies. We decided tonight would be the night to make a statement and have some fun. Going to the movies, we casually linked arms, and we got unwelcoming, longer-than-appreciated stares. Things were going well, relatively speaking. Then walking back, we decided to hold hands. Instantly, a guy mumbled something sexual, and looked up and down my body like I was a picture in a “Playboy” magazine. From that point on, with every group of guys we passed, we hesitated more and more to hold hands.

So I would just like to say:

Just because I’m bi and like other women, does NOT mean that you get two trophies. If you keep this up, all you’ll get is one dishonest woman.

Love waits til the end of the term

In high school, if a guy liked you, he came up and asked you out for coffee or lunch. In college, it’s more likely that he’ll send you a friend request on Facebook. What’s interesting is the timing of it all. At the end of each term I get bombarded with friend requests from guys in my classes. Some were guys I talked to throughout the course, and others I had no idea were in my class. Either way, it’s interesting that the requests come in on the last day of class.

Some of my friends who also attend PSU have come across the same situation. They can’t tell if a guy in their class likes them, until the end of the term when they get asked out on a Facebook message or in-class on the very last day. My friend, Ryan Smith, explains it this way, “It’s like they’re trying to save face. If they get shot down at the beginning of the term, then it just makes the rest of the term awkward, but if they wait until the very last day, they have nothing to lose because they will probably never see you again.”

What do you think about this dating fad?